Your baby’s growth: She can hear!
By now the bones of your baby’s inner ear and the nerve endings from the brain have developed enough so that your baby can probably detect sounds clearly. Experts believe that one of the most comforting sounds she hears is Mom’s heartbeat. She may also hear your voice, your stomach rumbling and the sound of blood moving through the umbilical cord to and from the placenta, which is now almost as big as she is.
Here’s what else is happening to your baby this week:
- Starts to swallow. Some experts think thirst may trigger your baby to swallow. Since amniotic fluid is constantly being produced, your baby’s swallowing of excess fluid helps keeps it at a constant level.
- Mimics breathing. Your baby’s chest will continue to move up and down to mimic breathing, but she’s not breathing air—just swallowing and inhaling amniotic fluid. This is a normal part of your baby’s development. This intake of amniotic fluid will not harm her.
- Female reproductive parts. If your baby is a girl, the vagina, uterus, and fallopian tubes will be in place by the end of the week.
What’s happening with you
- Weight gain. On average, pregnant moms have gained about 10 or 11 pounds by now. It’s a good idea to gain weight gradually. By not putting on a lot of weight all at once, your body won’t be as stressed, and you may have an easier time delivering the baby.
- Trouble sleeping. If you’re having difficulty getting a good night’s sleep because of this added weight and the resulting discomfort, try urinating before going to bed, propping yourself up with pillows in bed and resting on your left side.
- Ultrasound. This week your doctor may prescribe a mid-pregnancy ultrasound, which is often recommended sometime during the second trimester, usually between 18 and 22 weeks. This test can help your doctor assess fetal growth and development, screen for certain birth defects, check the placenta and umbilical cord and determine whether the projected due date is accurate.
The Royal College of Midwives (RCM) and the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (RCOG) support home birth for women with uncomplicated pregnancies. There is no reason why home birth should not be offered to women at low risk of complications and it may confer considerable benefits for them and their families. There is ample evidence showing that labouring at home increases a woman’s likelihood of a birth that is both satisfying and safe, with implications for her health and that of her baby.
I feel sorry for the kids who’s mom’s I see on Facebook complain about how ‘different’ i.e. sad, frustrating, boring their life became once they became a mom. “No private time, no social life, no free time, no me time, etc..” I assume they’re venting, but what will your kids think when they go back and see what they said about them?
So a funny thing happened on the way to the forum… Ok, well, not quite but I like that line. I’m on cd 22 today, and where I’d normally be testing to see if I’m pregnant, for some reason, I was tempted to take an ovulation predictor strip yesterday and it came out super positive?! I had taken some earlier in the month, and nothing, so I was amazed it was so dark yesterday. I took another one today just to see, and again, super dark and positive. I took a pregnancy test which looked negative but it was a dollar store test, and so based on a 28 day cycle, its still way too early to test… I had always been regular like clockwork, but I wonder if my cycles have changed after the hormone changes of the miscarriages? I guess its entirely possible!
According to Pink Pad, I’m on cd 19, and have 13 days until my period is due. I don’t know what else to do except vent on my little micro blog. ha.
I’m so tempted to go buy some pregnancy tests. Maybe I will buy 13 just for some peace of mind. I like taking them, what can I say. Usually if I don’t get a positive by the day my period is due, I know I am pretty much out for the month, because the last 2 times, I got early positives like a week before AF was due. It does make it a long wait, since that still means the earliest I will get a positive is like a week from now.
For some reason, Pink Pad has me on a 31 day cycle, but I really don’t think my cycle is 31 days. I think its just that my body is trying to re-regulate itself after the d&c in December. So it thinks I ovulated yesterday, but I don’t think I did.
Anywho- Another couple weeks of the waiting game.
Its hard for me to write this post without coming off as bitter or less than happy for my pregnant friends. I am super happy for all my friends that are pregnant and expecting their little babies but I am so sad for myself. So sad that sometimes I worry and wonder if the sadness will ever go away even after we do have a healthy baby (I assume it will).
The reason I would even write that going to baby showers is tough is because I know I am not alone in this. As someone who’s had 2 miscarriages and currently ttc, I feel a particular kind of longing with each pregnancy announcement. I calculate how far along I would be at a particular stage, from our first pregnancy, I would be giving birth this week. From our second, I’d be showing. Instead, I’m in the longest two week wait of my life.
In one line, I can sum it up by saying I am thrilled for my friends and sad for myself. No one should have to feel that way, but we do and I know only God can get me through those hurt feelings, because there are no human answers.
So today I am feeling so confused. I don’t know if I feel weird, or if I am making up symptoms. My first pregnancy symptom has always been heartburn. And its either that, or I had too much coffee or pizza today, I don’t know which. Plus, I texted Mike that I was listening to Pandora, to 2cellos song With or Without You (U2 cover) and I started crying! Like boohoo crying. Seriously. So, I am not going to make a big deal about it. Anything makes me cry these days. But I am definitely feeling weird.
I know its been like a month since I blogged. I guess if you’re not pregnant its just no fun hanging around a blog with a bunch of pregnant ladies, and I didn’t want to be the party pooper, you know, the one everyone feels bad for.
I didn’t post an update, but we got the results from the genetic testing on the last pregnancy. The baby tested for the chromosomal abnormality trisomy 16, so there was next to no chance of any type of development or survival. I’m glad in that case that development stopped where it did.
The worst part of miscarrying is waiting for your cycle to get back on track. So, I’ve become that crazy person taking her basal body temp and peeing on ovulation testers. Its not necessarily to try and get pregnant again, but more so to know when (more or less) I am ovulating so we have a better idea when I do want to try again.
I have all the ‘crazy ttc lady’ props. Spiral notebook, scotch tape, thermometer on the nightstand, etc… But I swear, I am not crazy or ttc. LOL. I bought on amazon this great little kit of 100 ovulation strips and like 20 hcg pregnancy strips, which is awesome for like 17 bucks. I know its the cheap stuff, but its awesome for worry warts like me.
If you’re looking for a good deal, here it is:
Not much going on these days, except trying to get the apartment organized. I am a little depressed on and off, but more off these last few days, which feels like there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.
I got really emotional at midnight on new years… Like an “I gotta get outta here” emotional, but I didn’t get out. Mike’s grandma cried too, so I don’t feel so alone. I can only imagine what she was emotional about.
I told Mike I maybe want to try to get pregnant one more time, and would he be ok with that. He said yes, so I guess we’ll see what next year brings.